Cafe with Jo-Bug at the Beach
That’s the line in my day planner.
The planned cafe...along with destination.
I really enjoy listening to my youngest kid.
I think it’s funny how the perception of “kid” changes.
I once wondered why my gramma saw us all as kids and chickadees...even as we aged.
I get it now.
It makes sense.
In that fashion, anyone I perceive to be my own kids ages...somehow end up “kids” in my mind.
I am a “kid” to someone else....
I think I heard that “agism” goes to the negative belief structures around age.
How we treat people ... peers or otherwise.
Maybe that goes to respect...
Or,
The understanding of what “respect” actually means to each person.
I am likely “disrespectful” by some standards, even while trying to defend what my ideals of respect is.
Bug shared with me their most significant battle of recent days.
Every battle is a personal one-
But the shared sentiments resound.
Understanding and connecting with others can be a practise in perspective taking ...on repeat.
Some one shares their experience-
And while we absorb that experience,
We are assimilating it into our own.
Comparing or basing our understanding of it-
Through the lens of how we see life.
Cults or group opinion always begin with the multiplying of one thought or perspective.
Not because the idea wasn’t there before-
But that the expression of it-draws others who agree.
Collecting pots-of shared perspective.
One “agrees” with the other...
Drawing them together in mutual shared experience.
What drives me crazy about someone else’s behaviour and choices;
Reveals the things I need to look at from my own beliefs and biases...
My own perspective.
Though-
What I am focused on and drawn towards-
Also reveals my own.
That isn’t always about what the other persons’ action or inaction is-
But how it impacts or triggers “me”.
So ...if we look at our reaction about someone else’s actions-
We can sometimes figure out what our own psyche is telling us.
Our own ego..no matter how much in denial we are about it.
Bug had me thinking about how a persons’ experience reveals not only our strengths-
But our weaknesses also.
“I AM...the sum of these experiences.”
For better or worse-
I am going to see these things and react to these things...around...based on my own perception of what they are.
How often do we “read ourselves” into situations or things- that actually have nothing to do with us?
Taking an expression or word-strung-sentence...and put intent behind them that simply isn’t there.
Personalize an impersonal situation.
Youth are notorious for finding a way to perceive every interaction as “based on me”.
Guilt,
Shame,
Anxiety and depression-
More and more common as society creates larger and larger realities.
Polarized from one another to the point of separation.
Or ...
Is it just that we are more “aware” now,
More than ever before in history-
With “awareness” streams .....happening in the palm of our hands?
Your moody-mood effects mine.
My moody-mood affects yours.
Our collective moody-moods move through societal constructs like the tide rolling in.
The stronger the winds-
The higher the wave crashes,
Smashing into you and me.
....
When you fail at something,
It’s hard to not feel like a failure.
Yet “failure” itself...is hard to define, since it’s all about perspective.
If I failed at something,
It always means that the current status does not align with my belief of what “success” is.
If I was bent on a change in career and evaluation of realistic personal and service goals:
I would be currently winning.
If I believed success was taking the time to focus in on what areas of service I believe in, can do and offer- while also being able to clarify the areas I struggle to reach.
I would be in the process of nailing it.
But if my focus is on a 9-5, striving to keep up; while the feeling of drowning becomes more and more real. ...
.....If my focus was on success in THAT direction-
I was facing the wrong way when the sun set.
Maybe watching the colours that dance off the clouds rolling over the mountains...
But never seeing the suns' descent.
Feeling that I was able to achieve the goals set out to achieve...
Well.
...That ends up in the day planner.
Notes to say-
This is what I panned to do,
This is what I did do-
And this is how I served today.
And...
Cafe at the beach.
Connecting with someone.
Being engaged in living in a moment of sharing.
Taking time to breathe,
Collect myself.
Try again-
More mindful of the areas to improve on.
Make space for curiosity.
“Listen 90 percent. Talk 10.”
Does blogging count?
...
Hmmm.
Well,
‘Work-on website’ is jotted in the day planner for today.
Though,
I still need to make it down town to ask about what I actually need in order to offer those services on my own.
Like,
Licensing or insurance.
So-
Blogging and developing a historical base:
Check.
..but the “business” aspect lingers in the question mark zone still.
But I am pretty okay with the progress, reaching out to potential situations that could offer me work.
Work on the house.
Little mini daily successes.
Clean, Create, Connect, Continue to grow.
Winning.
Take good care.